How To Explain A Difficult Ex

August 6, 2014
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There will be times when you’re divorce will not go smoothly. Some of you will have to deal with a difficult ex during and after the divorce.  A difficult ex will be bitter, confrontational, non cooperative, and some will be constantly argumentative. They can be hard to understand.  Once you can understand why a difficult ex is acting the way they do, hopefully you will learn to not let them bother you anymore. Here are just a few reasons you may have a difficult ex.

1. You’re Difficult Ex Is Not Over You

Many times when you have a difficult ex, they simply are not over the relationship or you. A difficult ex acts poorly because they do not know how to express what they are feeling. They may not want to tell you that they may have messed up but will blame you for messing up. A difficult ex may text you or call you for silly reasons just so they can check on you.   These are all ways for them to try to make themselves feel better for not being over you.

2. The Difficult Ex Still Tries To Control You

There are times when a difficult ex does not know how to stop controlling you during the divorce and after a divorce is final. Do not let a difficult ex control you. This will cause you stress and will lead the ex to think they will continue to control you.  Try not to allow the ex into your day to day routines. You must make sure you set boundaries so you are not being controlled by a difficult ex.

3. Feels Guilty for Many Reasons

One reason an ex feels guilty is because of how or why the divorce took place. They may feel bad for not trying harder. A difficult ex may start to play the blame game. If they play the blame game it is usually because they feel that they are the cause of the problems and feel guilty. Many times blaming is their way to take blame off of themselves.  A difficult ex may not know how to tell you why they feel guilty or that they have done wrong.

4. Fear

A difficult ex may fear losing the family union. They don’t always realize the effects of divorce on children and that they would have to deal with this on their own. Another reason is that they will have to learn to take care of the children with out you’re help. A difficult ex will fear not getting enough time with the children, since the amount of time each parent gets with the children can vary.

Divorce is never easy. When you have a difficult ex, try to remember there are many reasons why they are difficult. Try to think about what you say and how you say it when talking to a difficult ex. Once you come to terms with a difficult ex, you’re new life will be less stressful.

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