The First Holiday After Your Divorce


The holidays are here. While most of us enjoy the joy of the season, for those going through or recently having gone through a divorce it can be a freighting challenge. If you are a single adult, you will manage as you have all the trials this far. It may be hard, but life has handed you disappointments, pain, and trials before and you are still standing. This season will be no different because a the divorce. You will still be standing when the calendar page turns to reveal 2021. However, if you are a newly (or soon to be) divorced parent, it will be more difficult.

Is there a right way?

Yes. There is a right way and a wrong way to handle this major change for yourself and your children. In fact, there are many right ways, and wrong ways. The way that works for you and allows you and your family to function and grow is the right way for you. It is up to you to find that way.

Focus on this or that?

Here is the first hurdle. This is the first time you are going to Christmas as a family of three or Hanukkah in your new house. You want it to be great. You want to give your kids the happiest holiday in the history of holidays. How do you do that? Let’s take a look at some options. But first, you need to stop and consider a few things.

  • Consider the children’s ages. If they are under 10 or so, they will adapt to a different holiday menu, tree, or tradition easily. Why? Because they have not been around to know what a tradition is. They probably will still ask for “daddy” or “mommy” Just as they will not just on Christmas but as they will most nights. Have a plan (Facetalk or Skype) and do not make a big deal of it. If they are older than that, they know what they want. Ask them. Consider what you want and come up with a compromise.
  • Have a lot of events planned that you could afford and a calendar that goes right through the new year. Call this your escape plan. This is for when the plan you had exploded leaving the three of you in tears and you wanting to shove a candy cane up someone’s nose, you have a plan B.
  • Do not spend more than you can afford. You cannot depend on anyone helping you out. Yes, the expense is for the kids, but a lot of ex-spouses are jerks.

Now let’s talk about the focus of the holiday. Of course, you want the focus of the holiday to be your children. Or do you? Most parents believe they do. They work their fingers to the bone making Christmas cookies, homemade ornaments, taking the kids to the parades, light-shows, and decorating. If the children are young enough, they don’t get it. Of course, they love lights until something else gets their attention. (Like trying to make them sit on a fat man in a red suit who is yelling, HO HO HO.) In a very little while, Christmas becomes their new normal when they are under two years old.

When the children are a bit older, they love every minute of it. They get tired and if it goes on too long they really want to watch regular TV and eat anything that doesn’t have peppermint in it. But you are being rewarded by this extreme Christmasing. You are taking up the slack. You are giving everything you’ve got to your kids. You are the awe of your girlfriends, co-workers, family, and friends. When you and your children are invited to a Christmas party (and you are invited to every Christmas party) it ends with you surrounded by women dabbing their eyes with tissue telling you how wonderful you are. Your self-esteem is on full, you return home and live another day in Winter Wonderland.

When your children are pre-teens, they are old enough to tell you what they want to do and what they want to do. If you show them the respect to let that happen, then your children really are your focus. That doesn’t mean you can’t put up a tree even if they don’t want to help or you have to miss the Dirty Santa swap at Aunt Charlotte’s house. But, allow them to enjoy what they enjoy. If not, be prepared to be exposed.

At this age, your children will probably tell you some things that you may not know and probably won’t want to hear. You are using them and Christmas to draw attention to yourself. You want the title of Super-Mom. You need the Dumped Mom of the Decade award. You love to wear your little red dress and say, “I just do it for my children.”  This is the Christmas your kids call on that.

You Will Be Fine. Don’t let divorce ruin your Christmas

The main thing you need to remember is, you can do this. You have already done the hard part. You brought the children into the world. You have done what it takes to provide a stable and happy home. This year is just one year of many. You will do some things right and some things you will choose not to do again. Just remind everyone in your life that the adults have to be adults and let the kids be kids. If you can pull that off, everything else is easy.

The Healing Power of Forgiveness in Remarriage. Practice it to let go

Forgiveness in Remarriage

Remarried partners who forgive will let go of major and minor transgressions. You and your fellow will make you learn better by acknowledging that you do your best especially the forgiveness. For a remarried couple with baggage from their previous union, forgiveness may be exceptionally relevant. In stepfamily life, there are often tension and crisis, and couples sometimes remarry after they recover, or until they have had a chance to recover again from the past.

Forgiveness is Crucial for Health and Healing

Forgiveness can contribute to the well-being both physical and spiritual. To achieve stable relationships, forgiveness is important. Those who forgive have better fitness, less chronic disease, less depression, and less anxiety study. You must be ready to accept that you will make failures, be hurt, and even fear being helpless.

Why Are Confessions Vital for Remarried Couples?

Forgiveness means many things for many people, but for many, it means letting go of antagonism and retribution. Remarried partners who forgive will let go of major and minor transgressions. As such, they will have a strong romantic bond and intimacy which is important for their marriage’s longevity. When you apologize for your partner, make sure that you do so in the proper manner so there are no excuses.

7 Effective Methods to make an Apology to Your Companion:

  1. Take charge of your negative acts or phrases. You are confused and say things like, “I am accountable for my acts, and I’m sorry they’re hurting you.” The willingness of others to do that will alter relationship dynamics.
  2. Recognize two reasons why you feel guilty for the damage your mate has done. Knowledge of the feelings of your own experience will allow you to have empathy for your mate. Ask yourself: why did I believe I had to do so in a manner that caused discomfort or anxiety to my partner? Were my actions deliberate?
  3. Explain to your companion how you intend (if possible) to repair the problem. For eg, you might try to forgive her at lunch or by writing a note if you said anything to hurt the feelings of your stepdaughter.
  4. When you apologize, use the words ‘I am sorry’ and ‘I was mistaken.’ When you use these terms, your apology is more likely to be understood and acknowledged. Specify what you did to your mate to hurt, humiliate or disgrace.
  5. Explain why you said or did without apologizing or accusing your friend or someone else. You will stop the blame issue by using “I” sentences instead of “You.
  6. Don’t let your wife’s wounds poison your passion. Ask yourself whether “right” or happy is more important. Be vulnerable and don’t let your ego dig in your heels. Discussing with your wife and being responsible for your decisions will help you to shed anger and find peace and happiness in remarriage.
  7. Tell your companion to forgive you. Specify the acts and statements that must be forgiven. Make sure that the environment is conducive and there are no distractions while having a private conversation.

One of the most important aspects leading to marital fulfillment and loving life is the desire to pursue and grant redemption. Forgive yourself and your partner and give them the kind of future that they deserve-free from pain and recycled rage!

10 Things You Should Know About Prenuptial Agreements

Prenuptial Agreements

In the midst of all of the excitement leading up to your wedding, a prenuptial agreement may be the last thing you want to think about. You may fear that planning for a potential divorce will ruin the romance of the moment and the state of your current relationship, or you may question whether a prenuptial agreement is even necessary given your financial situation. However, a prenuptial agreement can be a good choice for many couples, and it is important not to dismiss the idea outright.

If you have never created a prenuptial agreement before, you may have misconceptions about them. An experienced Naperville family law attorney can help you better understand the benefits of a prenuptial agreement and whether it is the right option for your marriage. With the right approach, it is possible to reach an agreement that works in both partners’ favor.

As you consider a prenuptial agreement, here are 10 important things to know about them:

  1. Prenuptial agreements are not just for couples who expect to get a divorce. If you know that a divorce is in your future, chances are you would not be getting married in the first place. While a prenuptial agreement can address contingencies in the event of a divorce, it can also clarify each partner’s right to manage and use certain properties throughout the course of the marriage.
  2. Prenuptial agreements can be beneficial in second marriages. Second or subsequent marriages often occur later in life, when the partners have already accumulated substantial assets and may have children from previous marriages. A prenuptial agreement can help to specify which assets will be considered non-marital property and ensure that each partner maintains properties that they want to pass on to their children.
  3. Prenuptial agreements can define marital and nonmarital property. In Illinois and many other states, assets acquired by either spouse before the marriage are considered non-marital property, whereas assets acquired by either spouse after the marriage are usually considered marital property, which must be divided between spouses in a divorce. A prenuptial agreement can clearly delineate which properties, both currently owned and acquired in the future, will remain the sole, non-marital property of one partner.
  4. Prenuptial agreements can make for an easier division of property in a divorce. Your prenuptial agreement can include a plan for how marital property will be divided if you get a divorce in the future. As long as the plan in your prenuptial agreement is equitable, this can help you save time, money, and energy that would be spent on negotiation or litigation during the divorce process
  5. Prenuptial agreements can provide for spousal support. Your prenuptial agreement can also include provisions for spousal support payments in the event of a divorce or separation, which can be a good idea if there is a significant imbalance between the partners’ income or assets going into the marriage. This can make it possible for both spouses to maintain their accustomed standard of living even if the marriage ends.
  6. Prenuptial agreements cannot address child support, custody, or parenting time. You should not attempt to address decisions related to current or future children in your prenuptial agreement. Questions regarding financial support for children, how parental responsibilities will be shared, and how parenting time will be divided must be settled at the time of a divorce to ensure that the resolution is in the best interests of the children in their current situation. You should also ensure that other terms included in the prenuptial agreement would not detract from either spouse’s ability to contribute to child support.
  7. Prenuptial agreements only take effect upon marriage. While you and your partner may sign your prenuptial agreement before your wedding day, it will not become legally enforceable until you are legally married. This means that if anything goes wrong, and your relationship ends before you get married, you would not be bound to the terms that you agreed upon.
  8. Prenuptial agreements must be signed willingly. If either partner is coerced or manipulated into signing the prenuptial agreement against his or her will, the agreement will not be enforceable. Before going forward with a prenuptial agreement, it is important that both partners voluntarily consent to the agreement while having a full understanding of each other’s assets, debts, and overall financial situation.
  9. Prenuptial agreements that cause undue hardship may be unenforceable. If the terms in your prenuptial agreement regarding the division of property and spousal support would place an unfair burden on either spouse at the time of a divorce, the agreement may be unenforceable in its current form, or the court may order additional support outside of the terms of the agreement.
  10. Prenuptial agreements can be modified. When creating your initial prenuptial agreement, it is often difficult to predict the future. You may find that as your marriage goes on, the original terms no longer apply to your current situation in the way that you would like. If either spouse experiences a significant change in income or assets, or if your family grows with new children, you may wish to amend your agreement to reflect these changes. This is possible as long as you and your spouse agree to the changes. It is also possible to create a postnuptial agreement after your marriage, even if you did not have a prenuptial agreement in place.

Armed with a better understanding of what prenuptial agreements are and what they can and cannot do, you may feel more comfortable raising the subject with your partner. When you work with a Wheaton family law firm to create a valid prenuptial agreement, you can enter your marriage with peace of mind knowing that your assets are protected. Even if you decide that a prenuptial agreement is not for you, starting the conversation can lead to an open discussion of finances that helps you and your partner understand each other’s needs and set goals together. In either case, you can hopefully avoid future arguments and enjoy a long and healthy marriage. And, in the unfortunate case that you decide to get a divorce, you can take comfort knowing that you have a plan to minimize stress and uncertainty.

About Author: Tricia D. Goostree knew she wanted to be an attorney when she was 10 years old. After being accepted to the John Marshall Law School with a Dean’s Scholarship, Tricia added excellent writing skills to her love of working in the courtroom. Tricia is the founder and managing partner of the Goostree Law Group, P.C. – Naperville family law attorney  in St. Charles, Illinois. contributor

How to deal with blame as everyone do this for everything in their life?


It is a very common practice in society to blame others. I myself have the same issue of blaming others for my deeds as well as being blamed for the people around me. I believe you would be facing the same problem in your life. For me, I feel grateful for the opportunity to exercise compassion. The common problem of us is that we have decided to be a victim in our life. We believe that every bad thing is going to happen to us. No matter even if our pet dog pee on the couch, it is the dog responsible of wetting the couch with her smell full pee.

Actually, the reality is different from the thought we have developed in our minds. According to psychology, it is a habit of uncertainty and disbelieves. if I say that we don’t own the decisions we do in our day to day life then it will not be false.

Now what actually happens, we take the courage of doing something which is called some motivation. Then we start working on the same thing within our circumstances. Most of the time we fail no matter at what stage of the project of life. At that time we start blaming others for the decision we took for ourselves. For example, during my job where I am working as an employee, I planned to start my own business like alike. I start collecting funds from my own pocket, I put in a lot of personal time and I start ignoring my family. After a month or 2, I fail. Then there comes someone who will be blamed for every single failure. Even someone can be your mother, father, wife, or kids. Doing so they lose everything even which can be cured. Such people can’t listen to a single word.

Blaming others is the same reason when a happily married couple start ruining their life, day by day. Blame is the worst thing which most of the time is the reason that leads to divorce. No matter if you have children but if you start believing that this is the wrong person then there is no power which can return you from your thoughts.

How to deal with people and yourself from blaming?

The power of anxiety comes out of the act of blaming is most of the time is unignorable. The reason behind the unignorable power of blaming is something that you believe the blamer is wrong. For the reason either you start feeling bad and start arguing, right?

How to respond to blame?

The first and foremost way to respond to the blamer is a simple way. This is the only thing that can help you get out of the nasty mule of misunderstanding. Start saying, “I am sorry that you feel that way”. This doesn’t mean that you are going to accept the blame or agree that you have done something wrong. Always believe that blaming means how someone feels or take you. Once you start believing, you will step ahead of the people who blame you.

As you got to know how the blamers feel about you and they have proved with their acts, it is none of your business. Better is to examine your actions and behavior yourself. This will help you even not to extend your relationship with them.

Halloween – Not Quite A Holiday, But a Big Deal Anyway


Fall has arrived. The temperatures are dropping and the leaves are turning to beautiful shades of yellow, orange, and brown. In a couple of weeks, children will be searching for the perfect costume to celebrate Halloween. About this time parents will realize that they did not consider Halloween when constructing their holiday custody agreements in their divorce papers. Is this a big deal? Consider your ex and the temperature of your divorce relationship so far. Has it been functioning on a mature and mutually respectful level, or has it been strained and tense? Halloween is one of those things that people forget and cause later to ruin your day.

Did you have a “usual” holiday?

Are your children old enough that they have had a few Halloweens already? If your children have already experienced three or four Halloweens, and the tradition included trick-or-treat the houses only on your street, then watching Charlie Brown on television, that is what they expect. Pointing that out to your ex, and having them explain to the children why their holiday is changing is sometimes enough to trade this day with you.

Can you take them together?

Are the two of you adult enough to put your differences aside and go together? If you loved each other once, enough to have children together, perhaps you can push the emotions aside for a few hours and celebrate one day.

Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukkah, and New Years are just ahead. There will be parties, school outings, church services, and weddings popping up. There probably will be days that you want the children to attend, but the day belongs to your ex-spouse. It will be a lot easier to ask for help after you help out. The point is, you are co-parents. You will be co-parents for a very long time. You will be together at recitals, Scouts awards, graduations, and hospital waiting rooms. You are tied together by your child. How you handle Halloween if just good practice.

Kids that are over 8-years-old

If you ask a kid 8-years-old and over what is fun about Halloween, they will tell you it is dressing up like a goon and meeting up with their friends. It is all about getting out at night and acting silly with their friends! Little girls want to look beautiful like a princess or lie punk rockers. Whatever they look like, they want their friends to see them. If they wear the same costume and go into a neighborhood where they have no or few friends, it is not fun. It is not fair to do that to a kid.

Don’t take them just to spite your ex. Especially if you have plans!

Believe it or not, there are parents who really don’t want to do the whole trick-or-treat thing, and They know their ex-spouses hate it, so they are going to take them anyway. That will teach her or him, right? Yes, you have been invited to a costume party but you will just take them along. They can play video games or watch tv. They will be fine.

Kids can get overstimulated and afraid when they are put in a situation like this. Not only are they in a house full of adults that they do not know, but these adults are also dressed in horrid costumes of blood, fur, with axes, bones, and knives hanging from their bodies. They are drinking and talking loudly. They look for their parents but there are several people dressed just like them. You can tell the children that the things they see are not real but at that moment when they are stuck in a room with them, they seem too real for comfort.

Just one day

At the end of the year, if you had given your ex-partner Halloween, he or she would have gotten one extra day. That’s all. Just one extra day. When the day comes that you need extra help, your blessings will come.

The bottom line is your children need to know that both of their parents are on their side.

The scars of a broken family go deep. They need to see you handle yourselves with dignity and grace. Their holiday memories should be good ones. Filled with laughter, mystery, and fun. They should remember how both their parents gave up their time to ensure their kid had the best Halloween ever!

How to Protect your Personal Injury Claim from your Divorce

Separate Property

What is the contrast between Community Property and Separate Property?

It is essential to know the contrast between network property and separate property because a companion’s recuperation in a personal injury case will be Handel with just like some other in case of a separation.

Texas is a network property state. Eight different USA states are additionally networked property states. In these states, the marital property is either network property or separate property.

As a rule, the separate property incorporates property claimed by one life partner preceding the marriage, a property that one companion obtains through blessing, plummet or devise during the marriage, and individual injury grants (aside from grants for lost procuring limit).

The hidden standard of network property is that property gained during the marriage is claimed by the two life partners. Network property incorporates property that either mate procures during the marriage, things that were purchased with cash that either mate wins during the marriage.

Likewise, note that it doesn’t make a difference if the title to a bit of property is just in one life partner’s name. For instance, if one mate purchases a vehicle with cash that he earned during the marriage the vehicle will in any case be network property regardless of whether the title to the vehicle was distinctly in one life partner’s name.

For what reason does the Categorization of Community Property or Separate Property Matter?

Network property is commonly separated between the two life partners separately. The court doesn’t need to partition the property similarly. Rather, the court must partition the property in a manner that is “simply and right.”

In any case, every life partner keeps their different property at separate. This implies it is essential to characterize whether an individual physical issue grant or settlement is a network or separate property. On the off chance that your physical issue settlement is marked as network property, your mate will be qualified for part of the settlement or grant upon separate.

Could my Spouse Access my Injury Award or Settlement?

Deciding how an individual injury grant will be partitioned is a reality concentrated examination. On the off chance that the individual injury settlement or grant is network property, your life partner will be qualified for their offer upon separate.

One key thought is the thing that the life partner was getting remuneration for. There is a wide range of kinds of harms including monetary and non-financial harms. Harms can incorporate agony and enduring clinical costs, and lost wages. Particular sorts of harms will probably be viewed as independent property of the life partner that got the individual injury settlement or grant.

The following is a rundown of harms that have been viewed as independent property:

  • Torment and enduring (just as mental torment and agony)
  • Distortion
  • Loss of mate’s affection and friendship (however in case you’re separating from you dubiously have a case for this)
  • Interestingly, a few harms have been viewed as network property. The following is a rundown of harms that have been viewed as network property:
  • Harms intended to repay one life partner for harms to network property
  • Loss of acquiring limit during the marriage

Likewise, note that inability installments and laborers’ pay installments are frequently viewed as network property particularly if the recuperation is intended to repay the life partner for lost gaining limit.

In Texas, there is an assumption that property claimed by one life partner at death or separation is network property except if it very well may be demonstrated by clear and persuading proof that the property is isolated. At the point when the life partner that got an individual physical issue settlement or grant needs the honor to be treated as independent property that life partner weights evidence to show that the assets are in certainty separate property.

Note that it doesn’t make a difference if the life partners are isolated preceding the individual injury settlement. On the off chance that the jury decision or settlement is recuperated before the separation is last then a portion of the honor might be viewed as network property.

Tips for Protecting your Injury Award or Settlement:

To start with, you should ensure that you don’t intermix any honor that you get with network property. This is because different property can become network property when the different property is blended in with network property.

For instance, on the off chance that a life partner acquires an aggregate of cash from a family member and, at that point stores the cash into a joint financial balance it is conceivable that this cash will presently be viewed as network property. At the point when you get a check from the litigant in your physical issue case, you should store it into a different financial balance. Try not to place any of the cash into the record that you share with your life partner.

Next, ensure that you alert your lawyer to the way that you are included (or may get associated with) a separation continuing. Your lawyer can give you case-explicit tips to guarantee that you keep however much of your physical issue settlement as could be expected if you separate. In particular, your lawyer can guide you assist you with shielding the property from being viewed as conjugal property.

Ultimately, when you arrive at a settlement you ought to ask your physical issue lawyer to put explicit language in the settlement reports that state which harms are network property and which harms are isolated property. As referenced previously, in Texas there is an assumption that property got during the marriage is network property. Permitting your lawyer to put explicit language in the settlement archives will assist you with overcoming the network property assumption. This technique doesn’t naturally imply that your mate won’t be qualified for a portion of the harms that are marked “separate property” yet it might convey some weight in a separation continuing.

On the off chance that you experience separation in the wake of accepting your own physical issue settlement and you are stressed over the chance of your life partner approaching your own physical issue settlement, you can contact an individual physical issue attorney have a counsel with a legal counselor to talk about your alternatives.


About Author: At the Law Offices of Wolf & Pravato, our personal injury lawyer Fort Myers defend the victims of personal injuries in Fort Myers. A Fort Myers personal injury attorney from our team will do everything they can to gather evidence and pursue compensation on your behalf while you concentrate on recovering from your injuries

Learn how to speak to your spouse and fix your marriage

how to speak to your spouse

Marriage is a strong bond between males and females. It is the relationship that is based on care and attention. If you are spending a happily married life then it is a blessing for you. The beauty of your married life depends on the way how to speak to your spouse.

Tips on how to fix a marriage

If you are suffering from mental stress due to problems in your married life then you must have to resolve the issues. It is the question of how to fix my marriage without counseling? You can do it by observing the attitude of your partner silently.

  1. Sit quietly in a place and think about what you want in your marriage.
  2. It is very easy to understand what your priorities are and what the requirements of your partner are.
  3. Make a list of the issues and focus on them for solutions.
  4. The only way that helps you in getting rid of the problems is the honesty.

Search the techniques on how to fix a marriage in trouble. A newly-wed couple needs some time to understand each other. Lack of tolerance, communication, and understanding of each other are the prime reasons for divorce.

Send Love messages to your partner

Love needs no language to express itself; it has its own language for the people. If you want to be unique in terms of expressing your love then select quotes for this purpose. It will do a lot for showing your deep interest to your lover. Love is a miracle and it needs to be expressed in a unique way. The magic of the love quotes is highly effective and it gives a classy impression to others.

It assures that you will never forget the magic of love and the moments you have spent with your partner by using these quotes.  It is used outstanding group words with exotic style and most efficient words which are the perfect choice for any event or celebration.

Express your feelings

Romance is the soul of marital life. Do not ignore this aspect of your personality. Love and sex are two different things. You can produce love by caring for each other. Love is the key to make the relationship strong. It makes your bonding powerful and strong.

It is imperative to communicate your sentiments to your accomplice. Hitched couples carry on with terrible life when their children are in pre-school. To lessen this strain, it is crucial to building the holding between both of the accomplices. For this reason, indicating your adoration fondness to your accomplice is an excellent thought.


how to speak to your spouse?

There are various things in life where cash is useless, including family, companions, and some more. We are going nearer to the machines and innovation, yet losing genuine feelings of serenity. Today we are pursuing extravagance material, yet all futile, in light of the fact that it has no utilization in the event that you have lost your trustworthiness.

Words to avoid for better life and avoid to turn marriage to divorce

Words to avoid

What is the science behind a happy relationship? It is tolerance, love, and respect that newlyweds first year expect. So, if you want to make your relationship strong and pleasant, you must learn some words to avoid during your conversation with your spouse. Obviously, these words can make other people feel disrespectful. So, you must take care of these things. You must include these things in your habits.

  • Answer your spouse phone and do not ignore each other
  • Forgive instantly, do not prolong anger and fight
  • Always spend time with your friends who have a positive mind and views
  • Make sex priority
  • Keep communication lines open

We are living in an age that is known as the time of material and we are pursuing objects. Man is advancing and this headway of humans is accomplishing various turns of events. The creative advancement has accomplished different changes and remarkable changes in the life of man, anyway it is the race of issue and everyone needs to get the most extraordinary things bycatch or offender. These machines are making the existence straightforward, yet miserable moreover. Some of the important words to avoid are given below.


It is not good to say someone stupid or call with this word. This is the word to avoid, If you disgrace your spouse with these words, he will feel insulted. So, you must avoid insulting behavior. If both the partners offer regard to one another, it implies they have a charming connection between them. Giving and taking admiration is the essential guideline of a cultivated sort. It is one of the stunning indications of a solid relationship.

It is your fault

You know words make difference so you need to know which words to avoid. If you want to start a fight and produce aggression, this sentence is a bone of contention. So, both of the partners should avoid it.

If a couple is acting like companions, at that point it is the third indication of a good connection. Companionship sentences for your closest companion are the basic method to communicate your feelings. Companionship is the connection that depends on earnestness and truth. It leaves a significant effect on your life.

Building a relationship isn’t simple since it needs truthfulness and genuine love. The significance of a genuine kinship is a prime factor. Companions are the individuals who share the most significant snapshots of existence with you. They are the correct source to expand satisfaction and lessening mental pressure. A genuine companion is useful in adapting to injuries. Closest companion is a genuine abundance of life.

It is intolerable

For both of the partners, this is the thing that can feel them unreliable. Never lose heart it will help you to stick on your side. Never get panic even in the problems it can raise your difficulty. Always stand straight and be natural to your posture. Use the dressing that gives you a flattering appearance, this will give you space to be relaxed and calm.

Final words

You must learn the words to avoid that can cause a mess. Never try to cheat your partner. It will ruin your personality. Stick to your right words. Be confident about the positive deeds. The welfare of the human is the best way to get spiritual peace.

The IRS FAQ For Early Retirement Withdrawals During COVID-19


Most of us who work full time for a company (privately or self-owned) have some type of retirement plan that our employer helps contribute to. In this article, for ease of communication, we will call them 401K plans in this article, but there are many other types with various names.

Your company administrator can help you with any questions you have about your plan. During the COVID-19 pandemic, people are looking at all of their options for staying financially ahead and their retirement plans often offer a way to borrow a substantial amount of money rather quickly. Let’s take a look at this option and how it is viewed while you are in the process of filing a divorce.

Can I borrow from my 401K if I am getting a divorce? 

The easy answer is, it depends. You will need to speak to your attorney. While in most cases the retirement funds will be divided 50/50, that may not be the problem. In some states, one spouse cannot take money from the account without the signature of the other. It may not be so easy to get your “soon to be” ex, to happily sign their name so you can get up to $100K of your money to make your life easier at this time. You may have to do some bargaining to ensure it makes their life easier too. During a divorce, both of you may need some financial support and it may be an option they had not considered.

In normal circumstances, if you are younger than 59 ½ years old and you need to borrow money from your retirement funds, you are charged a 10% penalty and some steep taxes and penalties. This is to encourage you to find another way to get through your situation and leave your 401K untouched. But, a worldwide pandemic is not a normal situation and the government stepped in, to wave taxes and penalties so you can access your money fast.

The IRS answers FAQ 

Almost immediately, when the IRS published the relaxed rules, people began drawing their money out of their plans. The maximum they could draw was $100,000 and that number was requested over and over again. Read on for more information.

Below we will list some of the most common questions asked to IRS. Due to the massive number of retirement plans and the numbers of people that are involved, you may have to research your retirement plan to see where it fits. Of course, you can ask your retirement company, your retirement plan administrator, or the Internal Revenue Service for clarification.

  • You qualify if you or your spouse or dependent tested positive for COVID-19. If your life has been impacted by the pandemic (even broadly) there is a good chance you qualify. If you lost your job or a portion of your income, or if you were unable to work because of a loss of child care or even if you own your own business but had to work fewer hours due to the pandemic, you most likely qualify.
  • The maximum you can take as a withdrawal or a loan is $100,000. This is the same for ex-spouses who were awarded retirement funds belonging to a previous spouse.
  • In some cases, you will be allowed to treat the loan like a short-term loan and repay it without penalty. This is not true for all plans. Your plan administrator can advise you. If your situation in this time of a pandemic improves and you want to replace the money you took from your plan, you should expect the payments to be expensive. They are usually paid back over a period of 3-years and the payments are over $1800 per month. However, if you are in a situation where you can do this and your plan allows it, repayment puts your savings back to the original position.

Bonus hack for older employees 

During our working lives, Americans pay 6.2% to the federal-set wage base. Our employers match our contribution. When we reach the age of 67, we can begin drawing that money in monthly checks from the Social Security Administration.

Sometimes life does not follow our plans. If you are a 62-year-old employee and COVID-19 caused you to lose your job, it may not be easy to find another job right away. While you will receive less money per month, you can begin your Social Security payments early.

Now let’s say a year down the road, you have returned to work. You can contact SSI and ask them to “voluntarily suspend” your payments. Your payments will be stopped and interest will be paid into your SSI account. If you begin your SSI payments when you have reached the age of 66-years and 2-months, your payments will be within a few dollars of the original plan amount.

This does not restore you to your original position, but it gets you very close. It also allows the person who is retiring to control their own destiny. Some people do not want to retire early. They want to plan their own lives around the schedules of their families and loved ones. The few dollars they return to their SSI may or may not make a difference to their quality of life.

Regardless, it is their choice to make. This option allows them to do just that. Make their own choices. This just might be the option you need to allow you to get through this difficult time with a little less stress.

Didn’t Get Around To a Prenuptial Agreement? How About a Postnup?

Prenuptial Agreement

There was a time when the only people who got a prenuptial agreement before they married were people of substantial means and/or people of great popularity. In the past decade, we have seen more people requesting prenuptial agreements than ever.

Couples who did not manage to obtain a prenuptial agreement, are arranging a postnuptial agreement in the early stages of their marriage. This is not about trust or love. It is about business and security. There is a saying, “When you marry someone, you marry the whole family.” A quick search of the internet will show you, there is truth to that saying. How well do you know the family?

Why are things changing?

People are waiting to get married. These are the millennials. They are securing their careers, establishing credit, buying homes, and investing. While they are not financially secure for life yet, they have begun and they have their eye set on the target. Their goals will probably be adjusted so that both spouses can live comfortably while saving the maximum.

By now, they probably have discovered which of the two is the best at saving, watching for sales, and making do, and which spouse runs through the mall, credit card in hand  shouting “CHARGE!” They have lived long enough to have seen marriages that have ended in divorce and the devastation. As much as they love their new spouse, they feel obligated to secure the properties and heirlooms handed down to them for their children.

The difference in a Prenup and a Postnup

By now you understand that a prenup takes place before the wedding and a postnup takes place after the wedding. Either of them need to happen under the eye of an experienced attorney. The reason for this varies. All prenups and postnups are dictated by state laws. The laws are not always the same, and if the wrong state laws are used to draw up your agreement your agreement can be ineffective. This is also a good reason to stay away from “do-it-yourself” internet plans. If your postnuptial agreement is in violation of any of the state laws, the judge may throw it out. Standard things listed in a postnuptial agreement.

There are many things to go over on this agreement. Even if you think your spouse is being fair, all items must be gone over with your attorney. Below are some basic things listed on a postnuptial agreement for a family of upper-middle-class standards.

  • Agreements you have worked out between yourselves before the divorce or separation process and before litigation begins
  • Fairness matters
  • Any plans for one parent to staying home with young children after working to secure financial assets (note: this normally comes up where alimony is a consideration)
  • Children are not part of this – they are hands-off in this deal
  • Inheritance for children from prior relationships including grandparents
  • Simply to clarify how to separate assets
  • Have separate attorneys
  • When one party is financially irresponsible after the marriage

Note: Before the wedding, each spouse should have an inventory taken of what they own, and deeds showing when they got it. If these items are to be kept by one spouse, all monies need to be kept in a private account. Expenses for the properties must come from that account. If the money for upkeep comes from the household money, it can be argued that it then became a household property.

When your postnuptial agreement becomes void

When you have hired an attorney and have legally prepared a detailed postnuptial agreement, there is little cause for concern. But, some people have attempted to go outside the lines only to find out they wasted their time. Here are some examples:

  • Your agreement was oral
    • You go to court and tell the judge that the agreement was spoken and the two of you agreed upon X, Y, Z. The judge has no way to prove that and it will usually (almost always) be thrown out of court.
  • Your spouse agrees that he or she agreed to the oral requirements, but it was out of fear. They felt you were a danger to them or their children, so you said what you wanted to hear. This will not work in court and could result in additional charges.
  • You did not provide full disclosure. You have assets in investments, cash, or property that you did not claim when filling out the paperwork. All property must be counted.

Prenuptial agreement and Postnuptial agreement are part of life. It is a way to feel safe and not to feel like you are trapped if the marriage goes south. It gives everyone a level playing field. You have no reason to think your spouse is using you for money. You can focus on building your lives in other areas and that will ensure you will have a beautiful life.