How to survive without the internet on vacation

internet

Believe it or not, the internet has not always existed! For those of you too young to know a time without internet and for the rest of you who have simply forgotten, it is not only possible but also desirable to learn how to survive without access to the internet.

It takes energy to not get frustrated by the negative we see in the world. To shake up your life

Sometimes, a life that is peaceful, calm and uneventful can unexpectedly end up feeling stressed. You might feel a void because you’re not accomplishing anything new. You might start feeling worried about your current situation and wonder what disaster is around the corner. To shake up your life.

Even if the outcome isn’t exactly like you anticipated. As outlined in this article on how to conquer fear and make a change, going after something new is as much about the process as it is the result anyway but result.

Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love.

It’s up to you to improve your outlook on life, and on the world in general. In doing so, you’ll put yourself in a better position to make the world a better place.

It takes energy to not get frustrated by the negative we see in the world. It can leave you exhausted if you pay too much attention to it.

Spending quality time together is very important

quality time

A strong family finds that opportunities for quality time emerge from quantity time: The more time you spend together, the better chance you have of sharing quality experiences. Eating meals together, talking about the events of the day, sharing joys and defeats.

It takes energy to not get frustrated by the negative we see in the world. To shake up your life

Sometimes, a life that is peaceful, calm and uneventful can unexpectedly end up feeling stressed. You might feel a void because you’re not accomplishing anything new. You might start feeling worried about your current situation and wonder what disaster is around the corner. To shake up your life.

Even if the outcome isn’t exactly like you anticipated. As outlined in this article on how to conquer fear and make a change, going after something new is as much about the process as it is the result anyway but result.

Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love.

It’s up to you to improve your outlook on life, and on the world in general. In doing so, you’ll put yourself in a better position to make the world a better place.

It takes energy to not get frustrated by the negative we see in the world. It can leave you exhausted if you pay too much attention to it.

That will happen when you wake up two hours earlier for a month

wake up

Some of the most successful people in the world wake up early. I’m not talking about regular time. I mean so early that the average person is still fast asleep.

It takes energy to not get frustrated by the negative we see in the world. To shake up your life

Sometimes, a life that is peaceful, calm and uneventful can unexpectedly end up feeling stressed. You might feel a void because you’re not accomplishing anything new. You might start feeling worried about your current situation and wonder what disaster is around the corner. To shake up your life.

Even if the outcome isn’t exactly like you anticipated. As outlined in this article on how to conquer fear and make a change, going after something new is as much about the process as it is the result anyway but result.

Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love.

It’s up to you to improve your outlook on life, and on the world in general. In doing so, you’ll put yourself in a better position to make the world a better place.

It takes energy to not get frustrated by the negative we see in the world. It can leave you exhausted if you pay too much attention to it.

Floating Speakers, Neckbrace Audio, and Charming Caffeine Fixes

time of year

I am not a fan of cold weather. I tend to chase the forecast when I can, and find sanctuary in the warmth of the sun. Yet, I am keenly aware of how damn happy this time of year makes me. There is a reason why “it’s the most wonderful time of year.”

It takes energy to not get frustrated by the negative we see in the world. To shake up your life

Sometimes, a life that is peaceful, calm and uneventful can unexpectedly end up feeling stressed. You might feel a void because you’re not accomplishing anything new. You might start feeling worried about your current situation and wonder what disaster is around the corner. To shake up your life.

Even if the outcome isn’t exactly like you anticipated. As outlined in this article on how to conquer fear and make a change, going after something new is as much about the process as it is the result anyway but result.

Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love.

It’s up to you to improve your outlook on life, and on the world in general. In doing so, you’ll put yourself in a better position to make the world a better place.

It takes energy to not get frustrated by the negative we see in the world. It can leave you exhausted if you pay too much attention to it.

Realistic life hacks for saving money on your wardrobe

altruistic

There are so many articles out there telling you how to save money and cut corners. However, half the time the advice is so altruistic it would take you months, if not years, to completely change how you interact with the world.

It takes energy to not get frustrated by the negative we see in the world. To shake up your life

Sometimes, a life that is peaceful, calm and uneventful can unexpectedly end up feeling stressed. You might feel a void because you’re not accomplishing anything new. You might start feeling worried about your current situation and wonder what disaster is around the corner. To shake up your life.

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Even if the outcome isn’t exactly like you anticipated. As outlined in this article on how to conquer fear and make a change, going after something new is as much about the process as it is the result anyway but result.

Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love.

It’s up to you to improve your outlook on life, and on the world in general. In doing so, you’ll put yourself in a better position to make the world a better place.

It takes energy to not get frustrated by the negative we see in the world. It can leave you exhausted if you pay too much attention to it.

My greatest fear: I’ll go broke and the three tools I learned from Madame C.J. Walker to ‘fix’ myself

madame walker

Madame C.J. Walker is one of my models. The daughter of slaves, she was orphaned at seven, married at fourteen and widowed at twenty with a three year old daughter and one dollar a week.  She spent two decades laboring as washerwoman. By her death in 1991, Madame Walker had built a storied beauty empire for hair products from ground up becoming the richest  Black woman of her time and one of the richest Black women of all times.  She devoted her life to philanthropy and social activism. In 1912, the legendary Madame told the National Negro Business League:

I am a woman who came from the cotton fields of the South. I was promoted from there to the washtub. Then I was promoted to the cook kitchen, and from there I promoted myself into the manufacturing hair goods and preparations.

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Madame Walker was illiterate. She was a single mum like me struggling to become a mogul in a recession and amongst strangers who hated Blacks. How did she do it? And how could I do the same?

There were the platitudes: she focused, she persevered, she filled a need, she chased her passion. I wanted something more. Her sister died in poverty; what drove her onwards to obtain the impossible? I read her biographies and extracted three tools:

1. Circumstances and Qualities

Madame Walker objectively divided her experiences into Circumstances and Herself. She saw that what happened to her was Circumstances. She happened to be Black. People happened to hate Blacks. She happened to have no parents and then happened to have two children who died and happened to have a second husband who left her. These things happened to her. But she had qualities inside her! She was healthy. She could work. And so she sold what she had: reliability, skill, and herself.  She held herself upright and behaved as Ladies Home Journal advised so that women could trust her.  All of that was within her control. Couldn’t I do the same? Circumstances happen to me – I am divorced, broke, no high school educated but I have talents and qualities which I can improve so as to get myself the circumstances I want.

2. Attitude is rubbish

Work is all. Madame Walker nearly died of influenza. Sixty people were lynched that year near Vicksburg where she lived. Her husband died. She was only sixteen. She returned to her scavenging. She moved to St. Louis. She went back to her washing and the ironing scrubbing away on the ridged board with her hair falling out and her scalp itching. How did she do it? From outside in. She walked upright. She experimented with oils and steam. She trudged from door to door carrying her square black bag. People ridiculed her, but Madame held her head up and went on. My point: there was no such thing as ‘positive thinking’ or working on her self-esteem. Madame Walker locked herself into her work until she succeeded.

3. Madame Walker spoke to the people in their language

She never used White words of ‘kink’ or ‘straighten’.  Madame Walker spoke of beauty and of health and the divinity of hair and told them of a dream that never occurred that gave her, she said, the hair remedy from Africa.  More than that, she made herself their comrade. She told them: I am the same as you. I understand your problem and your needs because I have had them myself. I learned from Madame Walker to speak the words of the listener in order to use my talents to fill their needs. I think this can be applied to anything in life from teaching to marketing books to cleaning house to working in Walmart. Speaking the talk of the listener.

So what did I learn from Madame?  To sift circumstance from personal qualities and talents. To wring out those talents to the very last drop and to thrust ahead with undying reviewed action whilst speaking the language of the people whom I want to persuade. Of course, perseverance, focus, pride is important, but these unwind as twine from the three. Said Madame Walker to the New York Times in 1917 “I got my start by giving myself a start.” It may help us to consider: Can we think of any way that we can do the same?

Eighteen Foods to Eat for Energy

energy

(In Hebrew, the number eighteen stands for Life).

 

One of the things a single mother needs most is energy.  E-n-e-r-g-y… To get her body going from morning to eve,  to  grunt out of bed in the morning, to push her kids to school, to  shift herself through one more day of work, and  to somehow or other get through the day. Pay the bills, wash the dishes, make the beds, call the doctors, cook the supper, double housework with job. Gets you tired? It makes me too but I’ve read that the successful people are those who are so enthused with their work that they stay up till late hours (or early hours?) to complete. So I have to have the energy to imitate.

Believe me, I’ve ransacked the shelf on energy including buying energy bars (wallet-robbing); skipping rope (returns me to my teens); dunking my head or feet in cold water (brr!); and copying Benjamin Franklin’s 15 minutes daily rest  (sometimes makes me want to extend).

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Two weeks ago, I scoured through the journals for energy-promoting foods using only articles that had been produced within the last decade and that were medically-based. I gave it a try monitoring my progress at the end of each day and concluded that the following foods may have upped my energy. Now before preceding further, I must tell you that  my previous diet included: potatoes, bread, occasional snacking (which I was told was good for me), bittersweet chocolate (perhaps more sweet than bitter), and  the occasional gum (which I rationalized as  good for my teeth). Take that into consideration when you read on. The change may have occurred not so much due to the new foods as due to my diet-change.

Nutritionists listed energizing foods that included the following.

  • Bananas
  • Peanuts
  • Mixed nuts
  • Cheese
  • Whole wheat pasta
  • Edamame
  • Broccoli
  • Cauliflower
  • Fish
  • Lettuce
  • Tomatoes
  • Apples
  • Pears
  • Carrots
  • Radishes
  • Quinoa
  • Brown rice
  • Berries

And best of all coffee. Now, coffee, nectar of the workaholics, costs money, takes time, can make you jittery and nervous – but it can also help you operate at peak mental performance. Hallelujah! I love my coffee.

What about you? Do you feel as tired as I and have you found anything helpful to uplift you?

Three Steps to Taming Your Fears

shifting your eyes

Your greatest hurdle to succeeding as a single parent is fear itself for fear has a way of plunging you under the blanket and making you cry rather than encouraging you to persist with your goals. I say this as a two-and -half year veteran mother of divorce who is still battling my fears of:

  • Independently  supporting three kids,
  • Settling in a community without family and friends
  • Forcing my freelance business to become a money-producing mill
  • And simply living a healthy life.  My mechanic tells me incidents of healthy, young people who flop dead. He says it can happen to me. I pray God not.

I gave myself the e-mail address feistysurviver@gmail.com to  help me through my new stage in life and used my  scientific research skills to  unzip serious research on the latest strategies for battling my fears .

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Some of this research may help you.

  1. Elastic-snapping – Some psychiatrists advise wearing an elastic band and snapping it whenever you feel scared about the future. Psychologists say that it works by pairing a mental image with a physical cue (such as telling yourself to stop thinking about death (your mental thought) when the traffic light (the physical substance) turns red). Supposedly, this distracts your mind from anxiety.Other psychologists recommend replacing anxiety-provoking with positive affirmations. So, for instance, I would replace my thought of: “I’m scared. Ill soon have less than a $1000”. To snapping my band and saying “Hold your horses! What can I do to prevent this?”There are, of course, other techniques such as scribbling complimentary notes on the mirror with lipstick, articulating affirmations to yourself over and again until they have to pop in, and sharing your goals with others. Band-snapping never worked for me and I was ok with that. Indeed, research psychologist Daniel Weber says that the very act of telling yourself to stop psychologically forces you to continue. Distract yourself, he says.  Swallow yourself up in something else.
  1. Distraction – I tried that. Now, I found that distraction can be both healthy and less so. There have been times when I have been scammed, and I worry about my children becoming orphans with none to care for them, so I clip in to a YouTube movie which I hate myself for doing. Business research has advised me to keep on with my schedule come Satan or rain.  In short, it is purposeful distraction that is crucial.
  2. Shifting your eyes from side to side – Call this eye-exercises, and it’s the zaniest research yet but neurologically based. Apparently, some cognitive psychologists think that when you sequentially activate both sides of your brain you distract your thoughts so  researchers[1] advise shifting your eyes whenever anxiety hits you. You can do this by shifting your eyes from one knee to the other, or turning your head to either side of the room. I did this in the library; my neighbor glared at me. Apparently, he thought I was staring at him. Give the exercise a shot– but try it when no one’s around.

Anyway, these were some techniques for making myself think positively. Distraction works best for me. Do you have any techniques that work for yourself?

 

[1] See Hardy, J. and Oliver, E.J. (2014) ‘Self-talk, positive thinking, and thought stopping.’, in Encyclopedia of sport and exercise psychology. Thousand Oaks, California: Sage.