You Had a Destination Wedding, How About a Destination Divorce?

Wedding

We spend a lot of money for our weddings and honeymoons. We send out invitations to our closest friends and if we are lucky, we book our wedding in places like Hawaii or Los Vegas, where we can choose when we want to party and when we want to stay in. It has been this way for many years. You can tell when the groomsmen are getting down and you might even see a group of women in matching tee-shirts with creative headwear.

Change in the parity scene

About ten years ago, there was a change in party planning. Groups of women began booking divorce parties. These women had been through the struggle of divorce and now it was over. These women were financially more established, and they were not trying to sneak 10 women in a suite in Vegas. They wanted to party, go to shows, drink, and at the end of the night go up to their luxury rooms. They wanted to spoil themselves in the spas with massages, facials, and pedicures. Their reasoning was, “I did it up when I said I do (wedding day). Now I am going to do it up when I say I don’t (divorce day)!”

For those with a bit of a wilder taste in fun, they sign up for the “Just Divorced Package” at the  Luxury Gun Range. This is where you can actually take a machine gun to your wedding dress while wearing a black sash.

Strip shows have never been hard to find in vegas, and the men who go there to celebrate have no problem finding one. The ladies look for a Chippendales to add a little something to their life. It has as long been thought a beautiful body with a limited amount of clothing eases a broken heart.

Reinventing yourself

So the papers are signed, and you go out on the town and get rid of a lot of frustration. Now it is time to find a new normal. It is a time to reinvent yourself and come out of this stronger and better than ever. Here are some steps you can take toward that goal.

  • Accept that you will grieve. Much like death the dreams you had with your ex are dead, gone, over. Even worse, a lot of people bundle up those dreams and wear them on their backs for years. They pop-out whenever you meet a new potential partner. They remind you of what the last person did, said, or how they reacted. You may want to get some therapy early on, so you won’t mourn too long.
  • Love and appreciate who you are. When we allow someone to be close to us, we change. We all give a little. That is how we survive each other. It can be the smallest thing, like the brand of coffee you drink. Sometimes we just don’t care enough about the issue to have an issue. So now is the time to look back over your life. Buy the coffee you like, have your hair cut, put the mustard behind the mayo in the fridge. Take inventory of yourself and delight in the person you are.
  • Learn to be alone You may feel the air around you is void, but it is not. It is filled with the spirit of you. What can you do? Anything you want to. Turn up your favorite music and sing. Dance in your fuzzy slippers. If you need to cry – do it! Read a book, rent a movie, take a long hot bath, eat eggs, and toast at dawn. You have everything you need to fill the rooms, you have your spirit.
  • Have a deal with yourself about sex. It is not a great idea to get into a sexual relationship in these early stages. Your mind is not in the right place for the problems that intimacy brings. If you are going to have a “Friends with benefits” partner, be sure you both understand what it is. If it begins to go anywhere else, it is up to you to say stop.

Divorce is tough, but so are you. It will take a while and you are going to need a network of friends to lean on. You will laugh, cry, scream, and dance with delight.  Sometimes on the same day! It is a fresh start for you. Just like when you trim the leaves of a rose stem, You will bloom brighter than you ever believed possible. Same way you did in your wedding day.

 

 

Coronavirus self-isolation | Divorced parents sharing kids concerns

Divorced parents sharing kids

Coronavirus has impacted every domain of life. The fear of its spread has also compelled the UK’s government to take strict measures for containing the spread of the virus. The public has been strictly asked to maintain a hygienic routine and keep social distancing. In such a situation, one difficulty is of divorced parents sharing kids. A deep understanding of the issue and following the useful strategies for the proper handling of the situation is the way-out of the problem.

Main issues of divorced parents sharing kids

According to the records, the numbers of divorces are 90,871 between opposite-sex couples and 428 between same-sex couples in England and Wales. So, as a strict measure is forcing people to spend more time at home and does not socialize, it is also creating problems for divorced parents sharing kids. It is difficult to follow the guidelines of kid sharing as per the court orders. But the court welfare officers have asked people to try to adapt to the changing environment and continue their previous agreements of child sharing while following all the required protocols of social isolation.

More vulnerable arrangements

Although divorced parents sharing kids are needed to keep following the previous routine with more care according to the safety measure, few scenarios are going to be more severely impacted and would have to stop. Situations, in which the exchange of kids takes place in the dedicated center, are not going to happen these days, because such centers are closed amid the fear of the spread of the coronavirus. Taking care of the health of the children is also very important, so parents would have to compromise with it.

Strategies for divorced parents sharing kids during coronavirus pandemic

There are few strategies of parenting, which divorced parents sharing kids can follow and can ease up the tense situation regarding the follow up the child’s settlement between parents. Parents need to avoid public gathering and should just receive children through cars, instead of going out. If they receive the child from the home of the other parent, then they should just wait for the child to come in the car by himself rather than going out. Both parents of the children also need to stay in contact all along, so that they can keep the check on the hygiene and health routine of the child throughout.

Indirect interactions between children and parents

Certain parents are not on talking terms with each other, and it is impossible for them to collectively plan the daily routine and care of the child. In that case, where cooperation is not possible children may remain with one parent, but the child should be continuously allowed to maintain indirect contact with the other parent. They can constantly remain in contact with their other parent through calls and video calls until this situation gets better.

Parents are needed to have a more flexible approach

As corona is a global pandemic, so showing adaptability toward this issue and managing your daily routine according to it, is very important. In this time, parents should also show a more pragmatic approach. If their children are residing with other parents and are unable to reach them or if the situation is otherwise where they have to take care of the children by themselves, they should bear with that. Frustrating about the situation and trying to contact the court in this situation, would only make parents and their children more worried and would only complicate the already existing crisis.

Compensation of these difficult situations is possible

Such situations, where a child is spending more time with one parent, can be handled with this positive notion, that situation can be compensated in the future, where the child would spend equal time with other parents. Those parents, who can manage to continue the child routine as they used to in past, should keep doing that because if someone tries to take advantage of this situation deliberately, then courts, which are working online these days can still take action against them and it can cost them a lot of damage in future. So, having good faith and keeping good intentions to find out the ways of following the child sharing routine is the need of the time.

Amy Bates

Amy Bates

Amy Bates is a lawyer and real estate investor in Brookfield, Wisconsin. She works in real estate law and advises small businesses. Amy also teaches real estate investors how to grow their skills as investors and manage their own properties. She can be reached at talktoamy@qandamy.com . To learn more about real estate, growing your own business, or becoming successful after a divorce please visit www.qandamy.com.

Abby Eisenkraft

Abby Eisenkraft

Abby Eisenkraft is the CEO of Choice Tax Solutions Inc. She is a federally licensed Enrolled Agent (EA), an Accredited Tax Advisor (ATA), Accredited Tax Preparer (ATP) and a Chartered Retirement Planning Counselor (CRPC). Abby started her career in tax as a preparer, and quickly gained a reputation for successfully dealing with difficult tax problems, including those previously unsolvable by other tax professionals.

She currently specializes in tax controversy cases such as federal and state tax audits, non-filer cases, residency audits, international matters, etc. Abby Eisenkraft is passionate about defending taxpayer’s rights before the IRS and State Taxing Authorities. She is a speaker on various tax and financial topics, a consultant (specializing in the self-employed), and is often quoted in the press as a tax and financial expert. She is the author of the new book “101 Ways to Stay Off the IRS Radar”, available at Amazon and select bookstores.

Stay safe and increase your privacy on internet

privacy on internet

Privacy on internet

How can you increase your privacy on internet? You can only choose to accept the reality that, sort of, imprisons us and makes it so we can’t put our hands straight through walls even though science says it should be possible, and if accepting this enforced reality you accept that the person has all the features of the rest of seemingly existing things in this reality, such as presence, tangibility, and recognition of existence by multiple sentient beings, then you can accept that they exist.

It takes energy to not get frustrated by the negative we see in the world. To shake up your life

Sometimes, a life that is peaceful, calm and uneventful can unexpectedly end up feeling stressed. You might feel a void because you’re not accomplishing anything new. You might start feeling worried about your current situation and wonder what disaster is around the corner. To shake up your life.

Even if the outcome isn’t exactly like you anticipated. As outlined in this article on how to conquer fear and make a change, going after something new is as much about the process as it is the result anyway but result.

Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love.

It’s up to you to improve your outlook on life, and on the world in general. In doing so, you’ll put yourself in a better position to make the world a better place.

It takes energy to not get frustrated by the negative we see in the world. It can leave you exhausted if you pay too much attention to it.

Inspiring quotes from the women who make us

Inspiring quotes

Here are some Inspiring quotes that I think everybody should know and they come from women. Let’s take a look.

“I’ve never met a woman who is not strong, but sometimes they don’t let it out. Then there’s a tragedy, and then all of a sudden that strength comes. My message is let the strength come out before the tragedy.” ―Diane von Furstenberg

“If you want something said, ask a man; if you want something done, ask a woman.” —Margaret Thatcher

So what do you think about these Inspiring quotes? Do you know more quotes that we should have mentioned?

It takes energy to not get frustrated by the negative we see in the world. To shake up your life

Sometimes, a life that is peaceful, calm and uneventful can unexpectedly end up feeling stressed. You might feel a void because you’re not accomplishing anything new. You might start feeling worried about your current situation and wonder what disaster is around the corner. To shake up your life.

Even if the outcome isn’t exactly like you anticipated. As outlined in this article on how to conquer fear and make a change, going after something new is as much about the process as it is the result anyway but result.

Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love.

It’s up to you to improve your outlook on life, and on the world in general. In doing so, you’ll put yourself in a better position to make the world a better place.

It takes energy to not get frustrated by the negative we see in the world. It can leave you exhausted if you pay too much attention to it.

Rise and Shine -there’s something about early mornings

early mornings

Everyone wants to sleep in. Nobody wants to wake up early. But then that’s modern living, I guess. Early mornings have been tainted by their associated with work and weekdays, when life is a tired rush. And of course, late nights and intoxication don’t agree with early mornings, either.

It takes energy to not get frustrated by the negative we see in the world. To shake up your life

Sometimes, a life that is peaceful, calm and uneventful can unexpectedly end up feeling stressed. You might feel a void because you’re not accomplishing anything new. You might start feeling worried about your current situation and wonder what disaster is around the corner. To shake up your life.

Even if the outcome isn’t exactly like you anticipated. As outlined in this article on how to conquer fear and make a change, going after something new is as much about the process as it is the result anyway but result.

Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love.

It’s up to you to improve your outlook on life, and on the world in general. In doing so, you’ll put yourself in a better position to make the world a better place.

It takes energy to not get frustrated by the negative we see in the world. It can leave you exhausted if you pay too much attention to it.

That will change the way you look at life

life

Music, and more specifically lyrics, have a way of touching our hearts. Lyrics can affect our moods, unite nations, allow us to forgive one another, and change the way we view life.

Yesterday, I found myself listening to a song that I had never heard before. With the drop of the first few lines, I rushed over to the music player and started the song over again. This time, I would be sure to listen to its words much more closely.

It takes energy to not get frustrated by the negative we see in the world. To shake up your life

Sometimes, a life that is peaceful, calm and uneventful can unexpectedly end up feeling stressed. You might feel a void because you’re not accomplishing anything new. You might start feeling worried about your current situation and wonder what disaster is around the corner. To shake up your life.

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Even if the outcome isn’t exactly like you anticipated. As outlined in this article on how to conquer fear and make a change, going after something new is as much about the process as it is the result anyway but result.

Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love.

It’s up to you to improve your outlook on life, and on the world in general. In doing so, you’ll put yourself in a better position to make the world a better place.

It takes energy to not get frustrated by the negative we see in the world. It can leave you exhausted if you pay too much attention to it.